Finn's house burns down and she has to stay with her brother and his firefighter colleague Shane. Then Eddie moves out and Finn and Shane become lovers but she's insisting it's a temporary fling becausse she refuses to love a firefighter, since her firefighter dad got killed. But is it too late already? Will Shane be able to convince her their love is worth it?
I've read a lot of heroes wives books and get the impression that there's a prevalent opinion that women who don't want to love cops/firefighters/Navy SEALs because of their dangerous profession are cowards, because there's often an ex-wife who couldn't take the heat and the heroine battling with her feelings before she realises that it's better to live than to sit on the sidelines and miss out. This attitude bugs me a little, because I think a woman who realises she's only going to make a man she loves unhappy if she really can't cope with the stress is entitled to some credit for recognising the fact and getting out before it's too late for him to have a good life with someone else. It's so arrogant of the man and her family to criticise (this generic female), when they're not the ones in her shoes. I can only make decisions for me, it's up to me to decide whether I can cope with (my husband's faults). If I decide I can't, I'm not being a coward, I'm recognising my limits. Heroes' wives are definitely heroes in their own right, but not everybody is made to be a hero.
Having said that I loved the book, I loved the growth both Shane and Finn had to go through, and I liked the way they both stood up to Eddie to get him to butt out when it wasn't his business.
Feb challenge: The Firefighter's Chosen Bride by Trish Wylie
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Men in Uniform
Hi Sadhbh:
I agree with your on attitudes towards women who do not want to marry men in very dangerous occupations. Often in real life this is not a big problem. When I dated, women would often ask right up front if I was a cop or military. They simply did not date men in categories they would not marry. I never felt this was bad or cowardly. I do have a problem when women or men say this and then go right ahead and date people in a category they wouldn’t marry.
I think this tension in romances is created by the author’s need to have conflict and this is the easiest conflict I can think of. In fact, it is built into the Fireman, Policeman, and Military theme. Besides, there are a lot of women who really like men in uniform so in real life things even out.
Thanks,
Vince
“Romances are the emotional vitamins of the soul.” Vince
Hi Vince - as I said it didn't particularly bother me in this
romance, it just came to a head from thoughts about other romances on a similar theme
I'm not always articulate when I want to be, sometimes comments need time to mature before they make it in here
Hugs
Sadhbh
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