Mary Ellen was jilted just before the wedding by a man going back to his ex, and so when she falls in love with Greg, an amicably divorced father, she can't trust that he's not still in love with his ex. Can he manage to persuade her that she's being unfair to blame him for another man's mistakes, that he really does love her?
Mary Ellen got on my nerves so much I felt like pushing her under a train, but it got me to thinking - if someone's been burned are they being reasonable if they're wary second-time round, or is it unfair to the true love whose only crime is not to have arrived in their life early enough? Each person's perspective will be different but we can only make decision's subjectively, from our own pov. Fair is a value judgement, so is reasonable, but who gets to judge? The Good Book advises us not to judge - with good reason, when we're being judged we get defensive, when we're doing the judging, we often turn into sanctimonious prigs. Blessed are those who know how to give (and receive) advice. We obviously advise friends to take what seems to us to be the best solution, but one man's solution is another man's problem. Maybe the best thing a friend can do is recognise that despite the best will in the world, my perfect solution is her greatest nightmare and that, far from being a reason to quarrel or disagree, we should only marvel that two such opposites have come so far as to share a rare friendship - still can't stand Mary Ellen
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