My husband is married to a writer.

My poor husband is married to a writer.

In all fairness, he had no idea what he was getting into when he married me. He was actually excited when I sold my first book. He had no idea what was to follow.

Cut to his confused expression as he peeked out of the shower after I got my first revision letter. I was sitting on the toilet crying and threatening to sell my computer.

"You sold your first book," he said patiently. "I don't understand what the problem is."

The problem could have been the 17-page revision letter, I told him as patiently as possible. (It was at least that long as I remember it.) "The editor said she liked the characters and the pacing but I could change the plot if I wanted to."

"So change the plot," he said and went back to his shower.

I could have gone Norman Bates on him right there and then. I'm sure it crossed my mind.

The next thing was deadlines. You have to understand. Writers tend to teeter on the edge of sanity to begin with. It comes with the job. I mean, come on, as Intrigue writers we spend our days learning how to kill people and then doing it. The romance is the only thing that keeps us out of prison.

But when pushed up against a deadline, we can be a bit...INSANE. There could be screaming, crying, throwing things and complete breakdowns. Not me of course, but I've heard about some of the other writers. :) You know who you are.

My husband wasn’t prepared for deadlines. Forty-eight books later I'd love to tell you he's gotten better about them. He hasn't. He still says things like: "But you're always on a deadline. You'll make this one just like you have the others."

While this is true it isn't something you should say to a woman who is crying, screaming and throwing things after he just invited a houseful of guests for the weekend -- the weekend before Monday and your #&%@?(*&@ deadline.

And when I'm stuck on a plot has he learned not to be upbeat and offer me good advice? Not. He says things like, "Oh, you'll figure it out. You always do." I think you can see a theme here.

Fortunately I get to murder people in books. I swear it is the only thing that has saved him.

I've also heard that other writers husbands help them plot. Hmmmm. Mine always suggests getting the characters into bed. That's one plot all right.

Don't get me wrong. It's been 17 years and we're still madly in love with each other. In fact I just wrote what could be my favorite book, Gun Shy Bride, the first in the 6-book mini-series Whitehorse: Winchester Ranch, out in April, and dedicated it to him.

My husband is my hero. From the first day we met he's encouraged me to do what I love, write. He's been there through it all, feeding me, pampering me, and putting up with a crazed writer who knows how to kill and get away with it.

It's a match made in heaven since I didn't know what romance was until I met him. Nor passion.

So let's hear it for the spouses of writers. Bless their hearts.

So who inspires – and drives you crazy?