Things Change...

Like a good marriage, some things in life just get better and better. A loving husband and wife will complement each other as they change and grow old together. Changes in technology mean advances in how we can read our books, listen to music, or watch a movie. Medical breakthroughs.

But some little things in life just aren’t the same anymore. Have you noticed that a lot of chocolate bars are made of cheap compound chocolate? That margarine tastes like it doesn’t hold calories? What about pillows that look thick, then flatten to an inch as soon as you put your head on them? Or sheets with a cotton thread so thin they almost cut you? Have you noticed that a lot of store bought flowers have no scent? That most tomatoes have no taste unless they’re homegrown? And whatever happened to those rich, creamy milkshakes that were almost orgasmic? Wink It seems to be either a watery concoction or a thickshake that’ll suck your brains out.

We’ve always had to pay for quality, and these days we have so much more variety, but I still miss going into the corner store and buying a cheap chocolate bar that melts in your mouth. What about you? Can you think of something that’s no longer the same? Either better or worse.

Leave a comment and tell me about it, and one winner can chose a book from my backlist plus a koala keychain.

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
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People mostly...

Nowadays, the so called 'modern society' is careless. People caring for one another, people doing each other favors, courtesy while driving, shopping, etc is almost non existant. I am not talking 50 years ago... because I am 28, but I have seen how society has evolved technologically. Sadly, it is "crippled" emotionally instead. Just look at the constant shootings here and there, people killing each other more over stupid things.

Another thing that has changed for the worse... we have more channels on TV but nothing good to watch. And you are right, food is supposed to taste good. Now they make a lot of emphasis on the 'healthy' part and forget the taste. Chocolate is supposed to be high on sugar and fat to be chocolate, if not, don't eat it.

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Caira M.
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Hi Caira

Caira, yes, sometimes the world is a terrible place, though I guess we have to look at it and say that terrible things have always happened. It's just that we hear about so much more of it these days. And it does seem that people are mostly less caring of each other at times. On the surface, at least.

But oh boy, I hear what you're saying about the tv. So many channels and so much variety and we've still got nothing to watch a lot of the time. It's bizarre. We're spoilt for choice. Smile

Thanks for dropping by.

 

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

I went to the store last Friday and called my

friend to see if she needed anything and while I was there found some things I know she uses and picked them up for her.  While I was paying I seperated her things and paid for them separetly and told the checker that I was getting things for a firiend and she was so suprised that I would do that. 

I agree about the TV - I was looking this weekend and there are so man channels and there is really nothing good to watch.  I end up watching a lot of the cooking shows as at least things look good on them.

Elaine

Telephones

In the 'old days" telephones were made to last.  We still have an old rotary phone that must be 50 years old.  It's solid and heavy.  Now-a-days, phones are cheaply made and they fall apart easily.  We need to replace our phone every few years.  It's as if the technology is changing so quickly, that no one wants to build a quality phone ( television, DVD player, computer as well) since the new technolgy will make our current models obsolete very soon. 

Tammy Y (formally known as Yenastone)
June 2009 Member of the Month

clothing

I think the quality of clothing has decreased. Clothes used to be more durable and made of quality fabrics. Now, clothes wear out much faster than they did in the past.

Either better or worse? What about both?

Marriage is more disposable today.  More people divorce than stay together.  On the other hand, some marriages "back in the day" SHOULD have ended re abuse, etc., but parents stayed together for the sake of the kids and lack of options like we have today.

Mail delivery has changed.  I don't find emails as satisfying as receiving snail mail.  However, emails are quick, cheap, and often effective, so we pump them out more often.

Book publications have changed.  I still prefer to hold a book when reading, and I can read it pretty well anywhere.  Ebooks can be read on your computer screen (but don't we spend enough time sitting at our desks?).  To be fair, though, e-books can be easily portable too and not as bulky as printed books (but aren't they worse on our eyes?).

Checking on what someone is or has been doing has changed.  We used to see the person in person or we'd phone and hear what people had done or where they had been before they answered the phone.  Now people text and tweet while they are actually doing those things, and they could be miles from home!  I think that texting can offer peace of mind to many, but I am not impressed with how texting can kill any writing skills previously learned.  Our society as a whole cannot put a sentence together as well as we did forty years ago (nor do a lot of those people care).

Newsletters have been replaced or "enhanced" with blogging.  Blogging takes valuable time away from an author's writing schedule, yet it provides a forum for readers and authors to interact effectively and quickly.  Are we getting away from our priorities or getting closer to them?

Maxine, I so agree!

When I was young, Mr Whippie icecreams were a huge deal. The icecream swirl was as tall as the cone and you could make them last and last. Yum! Last year we bought van icecreams and they were melting before he'd handed them over. We couldn't eat them quickly enough. They pretty much turned to liquid before our eyes! They're mostly made of water now. I'll never buy another one, but it's sad that the power of the 'buck' has reduced that experience. Good that there's so many other things to indulge in though Cool

Robbie

 

 

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How about Coke?

Remember when Coca-Cola decided to have Coke Classic and had some new-fangled recipe that not many people liked?  Thankfully they went back to the old recipe and focused on that, but it took awhile.

I'm really glad that Campbell's has not altered (to any large extent) their chicken noodle soup recipe.  Yes, they've added new lines with different chicken noodle soups, but you can still buy that comfort soup from your childhood.  I've always been impressed with them keeping it.  If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

Speaking of which, whenever I've bought a cookie mix that we've loved, a few years later they discontinue it.  Never fails.

Hi Elaine

Elaine, you're a good friend for do some shopping for your friend. My husband does the same for an older friend in his 70s, who lives alone and needs help at times.

Hey, at least you had some shows to watch that were bearable. I don't like cooking so that probably would have driven me batty. Smile 

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

Hi Tammy

Tammy, I remember those old telephones. My friend's family had one for many years. They'd be antiques by now. The phones, that is. Not the friend's family.... well, maybe. Laughing

It's all about disposable items these days. I must admit I hate throwing out a toaster or a DVD player that doesn't work, but the cost of repairing them just isn't worth it.

Thanks for stopping by.

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

And I've heard

I must admit I hate throwing out a toaster or a DVD player that doesn't work, but the cost of repairing them just isn't worth it.

And I've heard they make those things impossible/very expensive to repair on purpose. Not very environmentally friendly, if you ask me.

 As someone who lives in the countryside, I miss the shop car. It came twice a week and you could get all the basic stuff, like milk, bread, ice cream etc. I've heard though, that they are making comeback.

Umm

I hate going to the store anymore. I feel like I can go spend $100 and leave with 2 bags of stuff. That is so ridiculous. The only thing I buy ne more that I get my moneys worth is BOOKS.

Jessiecue

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re: Things Change

CrystalG, yes, clothes are another thing that doesn't last if you don't pay top dollar for them. And even then, those expensive items still don't last.

Laney, wow, you've given us a lot to think about. And I totally agree that they always discontinue a line of your favourite product. Cry

Robbie, I used to love the Mr Whippie ice cream vans, and I can still remember how creamy those ice creams were. Thanks for the memory. Smile

 

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

re: Things Change

Minna, I've also heard that they make items very expensive so they can't be repaired. I guess the upside of all that is in a disposible society it might create more jobs. And I can appreciate with you living in the countryside that a 'shop car' would be almost a necessity.

Jessiecue, I'm sure we can all relate to a $100 not buying us much these days. And yep, books are worth the money. Wink

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

Back in the old days

I remember back when they used to deliver milk and orange juice to our house. They would set it outside your door. The milk was in glass bottles and it had about 3 inches of cream on the top so you had to shake the milk up but it was the best milk you ever tasted. Granted, it probably wasn't good for us with all that cream, but man was it good. And I don't know what kind of orange juice it was but I've never tasted any since that was that good. And it seems like now they are changing the package size on everything so yeah maybe the price hasn't went up but the package is smaller. And even though I would love to have an e-reader I still want my print books. There is nothing like holding a book in your hands.

Linda Henderson

the good ole days . . .

I definitely miss the good ole days. Everything was so much more . . . natural. Although I am entirely in love with my computer and cell phone, I freak out when I see my kids glued to either of them. They're eight and ten - modern little kids, who want to have Facebook, Twitter, and IM. I don't want them to! When I was their age I'd be running around outside, playing with the dirt. Now the cities are much more crowded and there's little space for kids to play outdoors like we used to. True, there's always a park nearby, but years ago there weren't so many cars or crowds. We didn't even need parks when there were acres and acres of free land to roam through.

Red Garnier
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I have to agree with you on

I have to agree with you on the pillows. I hate it, I have to use 3 pillows at night to make up for how flat they get so fast. Things are cheaply made for a higher cost sadly. I have noticed tomatoes don't taste as good as they used to. They have a bitter taste to them now. 

A thing that bugs me is how much you pay for stuff for a smaller quantity of it. Like the popcorn cans at christmas. They're 5.75 for a smaller can when it was 5.00 for a bigger can.  I just shake my head at it. 

Changes:

I remember when the focus on "eating healthy" became so prominent.  We were having Mother over

for Thanksgiving dinner and I wanted everything to be just right.  When our "healthy" dinner was over,

Mother turned to me and said " You are such a good cook,  what happened?"  My heart broke, and

I decided at that moment  that healthy would not be on the table for special meals!  

Pat Cochran

Good Old Days..

Yeah, I remember the good old days...however, there are some things (modern) that I can't live without..For one, the internet and the eHarlequin.com Community...

And yes, I miss the wonderful candy...and the home made cakes, no Betty Crocker...and pancakes...

Wayne

re: Things Change

Linda, the schools here in Australia used to provide small bottles of milk each morning at school. When it was cold the milk was yummy. When it was summer, the milk crates had usually been sitting in the Australian sun for some time but we still had to drink it. Yuck!

Red, I've been reading lately that children are turning away from computer games and returning to old-fashioned play, and teenagers are returning to more social activities, though I can't ever see it returning to how it was. Hopefully children will find a balance.

Nicolerko, you're so right about paying more for smaller-sized quantities than one big quantity. I've been caught a few times myself. Even when a smaller item is on special, a lot of the time it's still more expensive than buying the large size.

 

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

re: Times Change

Pat, I'm sure that for 99% of the time your mother thought you were a wonderful cook, but isn't it strange how an inadvertent comment can stay with us if it hurts?

Wayne, I couldn't live without the internet and eHarlequin either. Laughing Ooh, and thanks for reminding me about those homemade cakes. My grandmother used to be a cook on a sheep station and she made wonderful cakes. I can still see her beating the butter and sugar in a bowl for the icing (frosting). Her sponge cakes were to die for.

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

Changes I've noticed

I've noticed that a lot of companies have reduced the size of items in multi-packs (claiming that it allows them to not have to raise the price) and eventually the prize goes up anyway. One example I had recently was Eskimo Pies (not sure whether they're available outside NZ, chocolate coated vanilla icecream), I'm sure that they were twice the size when I was younger.

I know that the lower quality of some goods means that even when I search for bargains, I keep in the back of my mind whether I'll have to replace the item sooner than if I paid more for another version of the item. In terms of quality, it frustrates me that cellphones are not a durable as they used to be - I know of phones purchased in the early 1990s that have been run over by trucks and still have no problems. I understand that technology changes quickly, but if my current phone suits me why can't it last more than 1 or maybe 2 years - the quality of the last several phones I've had barely last 1 year most of the time.

Iphones

My husband golfs, but lately, I'm more an Iphone widow.  That THING does everything and if itdoesn't now, soon you'd be able to buy the app to do it.  If I say, it's cold outside, I wonder what the temperature is, he pulls it out and looks it up.  It's a navigation device, a game, a computer, a restaurant guide, you name it. 

I miss the days when we could just go out to dinner with our family and not have my kids and my hubby holding their darn phones, looking things up. .. what ever happened to conversation?   My girlfriend's hubby has an Iphone too and she's constantly telling him to put the damn thing away! 

What ever happened to phones that just RANG!  Oh, the good old days,!

Charlene Sands

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Mine..

My items may not be entirely applicable to US, but let me try to explain my thoughts on this..

When we were small (even until some 8-9 yrs back till I came out of home), our parents / grandparents used natural hair powders to wash our hair. We put lot of heated sesame oil to hair and wash it off with the paste made by those (it contained "shikakai", "arapu" and amla as we knew it - Will google later for the english words :) ) Mostly in India, all have black hairs and with this bath, it took a long time to scrub the oil out, esp when we had longer hairs.. and it took even longer time to dry the hair - naturally by towelling.

Man, our hair (myself and one of my sister's), used to be really well groomed, and so thick and luxurious..

Face packs used to be ground sandalwood paste :) It gives a natural glow to skin..

But the moment we came out of home after degree in search of work .. and stayed elsewhere, we switched to shampoos and hair driers due to lack of time, patience and non-availability of those powders.. 

Beauty parlors replaced natural face packs.. From then, everything started deteriorating..

Hair started falling like anything, my small sister had a strand or two grey hair, obviously creams and stuffs don't come close to natural ingredients..to give any glow.. Uh ! Even at home, my mom is facing same problem since those items we used then are becoming rare and difficult to obtain..

After marriage, we (myself and DH) are wondering, if we plan for kids, how will their generation be !!!!

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I'm really ready for the technology to move on

from CDs and DVDs! I hate how they scratch so easily and then become totally useless. I don't know how many computer games, including almost new Wii ones, we've ruined. Ack! I miss records. Well, I don't miss them that much, but at least they were better than tapes and CDs. We need some portable technology that doesn't scratch/warp/get tangled/snap in half ;-)

Jen 

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re: Things Change

Lyn, I'm nodding my head at you that while the price of an item goes up, the size seems to shrink. And oh yes, I remember Eskimo Pies. I'm not sure if they still make them in Australia, but they were yum.

Charlene, I'm laughing (in a nice way) picturing all your family looking up things while you're out to dinner. Isn't that just so 'now'? 

Anju, what a fascinating description of using beauty products in India. A lot of people are turning to more natural products these days, so there's hope for future generations yet!

Jen, there's nothing so frustrating than hiring a DVD and finding it's scratched and doesn't work. Sometimes the more expensive the DVD player, the more it picks up the minutest scratch. And that reminds me that I actually think the cheaper DVD players work better. Yeah! That's something that's cheaper and works better. Thanks for mentioning it. Smile 

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
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phones in public

It drives me crazy the amount of cell phone usage in public - the conversations I hear on the bus are amazing.  DH can't NOT answer his phone, and we've been out together and he'll decide he just HAS to talk to someone right now.  I've started taking my book out of my purse and ignoring him until several minutes after he's hung up.  At least I can tell my sons its rude and to put their phones away, but DH doesn't 'have' to listen to me.

I do have a cell phone, but use it hardly at all, and try to be cognizant of the people I'm around or out with when answering it.

Lynne

technology

As others have mentioned, it's the cds / dvds / ipods etc that are changing so fast for me. It's good that the quality etc keeps getting better, but the movies I bought on video are now useless, and I keep wondering if it's worth buying my favourite movies on dvd in case they go out soon too.

Yay for books!!  We might have the option of e-books now, but a good old fashioned paperback will never be obselete or be unable to be accessed because the 'player' is outdated.

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Good and bad

Well, you had me at "tomatoes".  I LOVE tomatoes, but I rarely even buy tomatoes at the grocery -- even during the summer -- because the chain grocers apparently continue to buy from the same sources in the summer and winter, and hothouse tomatoes are not worth the effort it takes to eat them.  Yuck!  They're mooshy and grainy and, worst of all, completely flavorless, whereas homegrown tomatoes are firm and succulent and delicious: nature's perfect food!  I like them any way you can make them except for tomato juice and any sweetened version.   So, unless I can get the homegrown variety, I stick to the grape tomatoes, which don't seem to suffer from the same problems and sometimes cherry tomatoes.

Another thing that's just not what it used to be is the size of cans and boxes of things.  Drives me crazy when I'm trying to make a favorite recipe that calls for a 16 oz. can of something, and I find that 16 oz. cans no longer exist.  Now, they are 14.5 oz. cans.  Or a 2 lb. box of something becomes a 20 oz. box.  How are you supposed to make a dish you love when the ingredient sizes change without warning, or how do you adjust recipes when they do? 

As Tammy pointed out, obsolescence is built into many things we buy these days.  Until imports from Japan and some other countries became so prevalent, there seemed to be about a 2 year built-in obsolescence on American-made cars.  Competition has changed that, though, so even though the cost is much higher, the product is also of higher quality now.

On the other hand, computers and some other products are getting cheaper.  I paid almost $700 for our first color inkjet printer.  When I bought a new one 2.5 years later, or so, it did so much more and cost just over $200.  So, you get considerably more bang for your buck.

And as for technological advances, I have a love/hate relationship with them.  I love computers (except when they aren't working) and the ease with which I can see my bank balance, send a newsletter out to almost 2,000 subscribers via listserv, find almost anything you can think of out on the internet somewhere, and in my case, even meet my husband.  On the other hand, I hate how impatient people have become.  Now, there is no advanced planning for anything.  Everyone waits until the last moment to do anything and then has a tantrum if, for some reason, they can't get it instantaneously. 

Similarly, I love the security of having a cell phone so that, in case of an emergency in my family, I can be reached almost anywhere.  I love that I am only a phone call away from assistance if my car should break down somewhere at night.  On the other hand, I hate that people (including my daughter) go ballistic if, for any reason, I cannot be reached at a moment's notice.  As I tell my daughter, I don't necessarily WANT to be available to everyone 24 hours a day.   Even if my phone rings, I am neither beholden by law or ethics to answer it.  After all, I am paying the bill for the service for MY convenience.  Just because someone calls, I don't feel compelled to answer, but my DD gets nearly hysterical if she hears my phone ringing without my answering it.   So, in that respect, the cell phone is an annoyance.  In addition, I hate the added danger of people talking and texting when they should be focusing on driving.

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re: Things Change

Lynne, it's amazing how we can't seem to do without our cell phones (we call them mobile phones Down Under). I feel lost without mine, though I don't use it a lot as I'm usually near a phone.

Rachel, I had a lot of movies on video too, and have tried to replace them with DVD but couldn't with all of them. We have a good collection of DVDs now, but then they bring in new techology like Blu-Ray and I wonder how long all my seemingly old DVDs will last. I'm sure people can't afford to replace all these DVDs so soon with new techology, so perhaps we've got a few more years yet before our stuff is obsolete.

JV, for the first time in many years we've got tomatoes growing (which is what made me think about the store bought ones for this blog). I love tomatoes on Ryvita, so am really looking forward to when they ripen on the vine in a few months. Yum!

 

Maxine
"His Ring, Her Baby"
Silhouette Desire April 2010
http://www.maxinesullivan.com

Talking of DVD's

I saw this as a poster once :

"My name was David. But it sounded so old fashioned and hence I changed it to DVD" !

:)

 

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Anju / Ju Dimello
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No longer the same....

Burgers are no longer the same, even at the fast food places that claim they use real ground meat with no soy fillers.  I can no longer stomach a cheeseburger from any of the fast food chains!  If I want a good one, I'll have to cook it myself.